My bible at the moment! Seriously, I wouldn't have survived the first year of my son's life without this book. I still dip in and out of it whenever I have a problem. How do you make parenting decisions? If you are constantly reacting to situations, doing whatever stops the immediate chaos, you have fallen into what Tracy Hogg calls "accidental parenting.
That is, "patient" and "conscious" parenting. So much of Hogg's Baby Whisperer advice is spot-on. Her foundational understanding of babies is that they are little people, who ought to be respected as, even talked to, as people.
She also understands How do you make parenting decisions? She also understands that these little people need to be acculturated to the family and society in which they dwell. While parents should and must make sacrifices to meet their babies' needs, they also need to start from the very beginning to teach babies their place within the world, as opposed to modern "make them happy" parenting strategies in which everyone and everything is directed toward giving a child momentary contentment.
To this end, Hogg utilizes the catch phrase "begin as you mean to go on" and is not shy about reprimanding parents who have fallen into accidental parenting practices without thinking through the long-term implications. She emphasizes the importance of consistency and trust, without which young children will not thrive.
Yet, she is also encouraging that--though it may be harder--it is never too late to teach the good habits that babies and toddlers need. Hogg's parenting philosophy will suit well those who like a fair amount of structure, who care about good manners, who believe parents should help shape and direct their children, and who are thoughtful in how they approach life.
While I do not dispute the necessity of trust to healthfully raising a child, I have to disagree with some of the things that Hogg believes shatter that trust. She is absolutely against ever leaving a child to cry, even for five minutes. She does offer alternatives that will allow parents to train their children for sleeping, etc.
I find it hard to swallow that controlled, brief times of crying when done for loving reasons will irrevocably break a child's trust of his parents. With that exception, I appreciated most everything else Hogg presents on routines, feeding, sleeping, behavior, and the like. I could see myself looking at this book or another of the Baby Whisperer volumes further down the road when I tackle introducing solids, toilet training, or the terrible twos. Dec 29, Kate rated it it was amazing Shelves: adult-nonfiction.
I still really like the Baby Whisperer's Methods. They seem to be fairly middle ground when it comes to baby rearing. In this book, Hogg goes through a variety of problems that parents might be facing in the first years of their child's life. I found it very helpful. At the same time, it is daunting to make some of these changes. We've been fairly successful at the E. Routine, but this past week my baby hit the 4 month sleep regression.
Hogg says that a 4 month old baby needs to be on I still really like the Baby Whisperer's Methods. Hogg says that a 4 month old baby needs to be on a 4 hour schedule. My baby is still small, and still wakes at night. I'm afraid to drop a day feeding when I want him to drop a night feeding. Plus we just figured out that he has food intolerances.
Now that my diet is finally clear, he's been eating like crazy. Is it just the 4 month growth spurt? Is he making up for lost time? Should I be pushing his schedule back or let him eat like he wants? He ate a full feed all 3 times he woke last night and the 4 times the night before.
He's clearly hungry. Hogg advocates adding an extra feed when baby is waking hungry in the night and is breastfed. How am I supposed to add an extra feed while dropping a feed?
Clearly something is off, but I don't know what. Jun 29, Veena rated it really liked it. Tracy's EASY routine, categorization of different baby temperaments, and chapters on food and sleep broken down by monthly ranges was really helpful. I think this really helped us to get our son to sleep through the night. We were trying the cry to sleep approach and it helped to get our son to learn that he can soothe himself to sleep when he's tired and ready to sleep.
But we noticed he was extremely upset when we let him cry if he woke up early from his nap. So we wanted to try this no cry me Tracy's EASY routine, categorization of different baby temperaments, and chapters on food and sleep broken down by monthly ranges was really helpful.
So we wanted to try this no cry method instead. It's not easy by any means and it's best to use this book as a guideline. Try not to place high expectations on yourself otherwise you end up feeling upset and like a failure. Also it is best to read as much as you can cover to cover with the relevant chapters.
Lots of times you will find some "contradictions" that even she acknowledges. Ex: do not feed to sleep, but she takes an exception when you are trying to help your baby transition from a 3 hour to 4 hour EASY routine. There isn't just this one method out there to help get your baby to sleep.
Tracy's approach is very strict and ultimately you have to take responsibility for what she calls accidental parenting. But if you can be PC patient and conscientious , then I highly recommend this book. Jun 15, Leslie rated it it was amazing. Nights were immediately easier as I just started tracking his day patterns. Oct 05, Iris Lee rated it liked it Shelves: hard-copies-i-own.
Sep 06, Tanya rated it really liked it. This book has been very helpful for me throughout my children's growth. I have used some of the techniques that are mentioned in the book, my only issue is that I have twins so some of the examples would've been nice to have multiples in them, instead of just one child.
It's funny as most of this is common sense to me as I do fall into the older mother category and like how she explains things. I would definitely recommend this book to any new mother to use as a guideline as believe it or not it This book has been very helpful for me throughout my children's growth. I would definitely recommend this book to any new mother to use as a guideline as believe it or not it's a helpful book.
I'm about to start the toddler book, that is a follow up to this book I suspect it will also be another guideline that I can have handy to help me get through those terrible two's. Sep 16, Amy rated it really liked it Shelves: parenting. I also like that the author, inventor of this philosophy, remains unbiased and shares when her method does not work. I know that no book will know every child, but I like the reassurance and guidance that I am doing okay by my daughter.
Wish me luck! That is my concern too. I'm leaning towards getting al three books since the first two aren't too expensive. Fri, Feb 01 , am I would again recommend getting the first book from the library and buying the third as a keeper.
Hope you enjoy!! Just because I love it doesnt mean you will and you may not connect with her methods and a different author may speak to you more.
I did do like BW but I did not do all of her methods. I got some other sleep books once I was ready to fully sleep train and did a mishmash of a few diff methods. Fri, Feb 01 , am I actually think the first one is the most helpful. Mon, Feb 04 , am busydev wrote:. I would again recommend getting the first book from the library and buying the third as a keeper. Mon, Feb 04 , am How about the toddler book? I loved her other books, I'm wondering if it's worth it Mon, Feb 04 , pm I have to say that I didnt love her sleep techniques for older kids.
Pick up put down for instance I used some of them but not all of them. I kind of made up my own sleep training by combining her ideas that I felt would work for me with no cry sleep solution and sleep easy solution and my own intuition.
I liked the rest of her ideas EASY etc but if sleep is your only issue I wouldnt nec go for it tho everything is all intertwined really and she shows how many sleep problems are really eating problems etc also if sleep is your main concern I would get the answers all your questions and forget about the first book.
And I thought her toddler book was pretty good. Regardless of your situation, or your parenting philosophy, this kind of baby routine has universal appeal. HOW you implement this routine will vary, though. Some parents love the timed nature of the Babywise approach, and are big fans of the parent-directed approach.
These parents tend to gravitate to and generally have success with a Babywise approach. Those parents may find a lot to love in the Baby Whisperer approach. Tracy Hogg is a proponent of gentle methods that are suitable for newborns and young infants, but are also effective in establishing great sleep habits. That said, the Babywise approach can work well for babies who are very regular and predictable, particularly if baby is formula-fed. We have and parents tell us that Babywise worked perfectly for their babies.
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