But some resented being seen as a threat and felt targeted by the police when out in public simply because they were young and male. Some saw admitting to emotional problems as a sign of weakness. Others admitted that they found it difficult to express their feelings and were reluctant to seek help when distressed.
Personal relationships were important for these young men. Many spoke warmly about the support they had from their families. If my friends were mean to her, I would check them. Well, this guy who acted tough with me got punched in the face for trying to show off for his girlfriend. He hasn't bothered me since. Bornnardmt Xper 2. I'm probably gonna be called the bad guy for this. But my uncle passed away and I was in a very mood.
I'm shy, but I won't take any mistreatment from any man or woman. This athlete at my college who is known to be an ass started harrassing me with his girlfriend watching. She told him to leave me alone. At first, I ignored him, but I noticed he was becoming very aggressive. He then crossed a line. He took my glasses off and threw them on the floor. I had enough, I punched him the face very hard.
Whatever is bothering you, so what? Push it deep down, get over it, and move on. But the double standard is palpable. There is no such thing as sexism for men. And if you mention it you are met with aggression and ridicule. Women have the presumption of innocence, but men are assumed to be guilty when it comes to rape trials. Whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty? At that point men have lost their character.
Popular opinion suggests men are the ones in power, and men are at fault for all the wrongs in the world, without realising men are hurt by the injustices in society just as much as women are. Men are told as boys that manhood is synonymous with strength, toughness, etc. There is one thing common to people of every gender that society forgets: humanity. Like women, men have emotions and need support. Suicide is the biggest killer of young men in the UK, and there is a reason for that.
Toxic masculinity creates a hostile environment for men and women, as how can a man be truly free in modern society when the notions regarding his gender are so predisposed towards an inhospitable isolation of emotion? Diversity in the perception of masculinity is the one thing lacking in modern society, and we need to fight for that. If I ever have a son I want to be able to tell him that, no matter what differences he shares with others, society will accept his gender as part of him, without ascribing a toxic element to his understanding of his own character.
Stereotyping is also bad. There are one or two girls walking 20m metres ahead at 60 to 80 per cent of your pace. They expect you to pay for everything, like in a pub or restaurant. They expect you to keep your emotions to yourself. On the one hand, you are still expected to be a strong, reliable provider in a world where job security and good wages are hard to find. On the other, any way of laughing and relaxing is fraught with difficulties.
An old-fashioned night spent joking with friends is impossible. You cannot be free and honest with your opinions, and feel you have to apologise for who you are.
Men are shown as incompetent, or uncaring, and in the current climate, if woman were depicted in this way, this would be unacceptable. It probably stemmed from always being the last to be selected to make up a team — selected with real contempt by the lads who belonged to local football clubs and knew how to kick a ball. By the time I reached 13, all competitive spirit was sucked out of me.
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